It may surprise some of you to know this, but I have a trainer.
And let me be totally clear about that: I pay someone to train me, at least twice per week.
Now, this might sound unusual to some of you; the obvious question would be, “why would someone who is an expert on training and has written countless training programs hire someone else to train him?
Let me rephrase, then. Instead of saying, “I have a trainer,” perhaps it’s best to put it as, “I pay someone I trust to tell me what to do and make sure I do it properly.”
You see, I’m of the mind that everyone can use a coach; this is something I’ve always thought, but I have only really started talking about recently.
Which is to say, I haven’t always used a trainer. In fact, it wasn’t until about six months ago that I started.
Here’s how it happened: at the end of a particularly grueling session, a client of mine (Shane), collapsed on second 59 of what was supposed to be a 60 second plank. I nudged him with my foot and offered her my hand, helping him up while gently ribbing him for giving up.
Shane’s a hard worker and always kills it in the gym, and a ball-buster who can (and does) make fun of me daily. This day, however, he said, “ha! 59 seconds? I bet it was 65, liar. You’re doing that thing where you pretend not to count reps to make me do more.”
I actually wasn’t (though I do this frequently) and just said, “maybe.”
Not satisfied, Shane said simply, “Yeah, yeah. I wonder how you’d like it. It’s not so easy on this side of the clipboard.”
That stuck with me—and after thinking about it, I realized Shane was right.
I began to think that it really had been a long time since I’d been coached; like, a LONG time. Oh, sure, I’ve caught the occasional workout with one of my friends who wanted to test out a program on me, but that’s different than having consistent coaching.
In fact, the last time I getting coached was probably when I was 21 or so, where my first mentor, Alvin, was training me for my first bodybuilding show.
That day, I called Matt McGorry, and asked if I could hire him as a trainer.
The text message conversation went like this.
Matt: “Hire me? You wanna work out? We can just buddy up and be training partners?”
Roman: “Nope. I want you to train me. Pretend I don’t know anything about exercise, and just make me do it your way.”
Matt: “Alrighty. You can buy me lunch after =)”
Roman: “Well, just to be clear, I want to HIRE you. I have to pay. No discounts. If I don’t pay, I won’t take is as seriously; I need the accountability. You need to collect the money so you treat me like a client and not a friend. No last minute cancellations on either of our parts.”
Matt: “Makes sense. You can still buy me lunch, though.”
That’s it. Out of such conversations, great alliances are forged. Matt and I started training that Monday, and, whenever travel doesn’t get in the way, we’ve been meeting 2-3 times per week.
And it’s AWESOME.
Shane was completely right…it is different on the other side of the clipboard. It’s more intense, and in some ways hard, but it’s infinitely more focused and absolutely more effective.
I have to tell you, hiring a coach was one of the most liberating things I’ve ever done. Ever.
I can’t tell you how freeing it is NOT to have to worry about designing my own program. That alone makes it worthwhile. I just show up, do as I’m told, and work as hard as I can.
I thought I was training intensely before; and I was…or at least as intensely as you can train alone. Training alone still made me think. Having someone else do the thinking, that’s what’s making the difference.
During the session, the only thing I’m focusing on is training as hard as possible. Each minute, I’m just focusing on this exercise, this set, this rep. In other words, I get turn my brain off for an hour.
This makes all of my sessions more productive than they’ve been in a while.
Now, of course, for me (or any fitness pro) this ONLY works because I trust Matt implicitly—he’s one of the best trainers in NYC and I’ve seen his programs and his results, so my confidence is unwavering.
If I had just hired a trainer out of the blue and didn’t know anything about them, it might be harder to turn off the critical eye, and question and second-guess him at every turn; obviously things wouldn’t work out as well.
For non-fitness professionals, having a high level coach, and therefore having a high level of belief in that coach is still imperative—because for anyone, you need to trust your coach—although the exactitudes of what builds that belief and trust will differ.
But before we get into the specifics of that sentiment, I want to touch on the point of this post.
I believe everyone can benefit from coaching. In fact, I’d go so far as to say that everyone should have a coach—at least at some point, even if it’s only for a short time.
Now, I don’t think everyone NEEDS a coach but I think anyone—no matter who they are or what they do—WILL improve if they have one.
This goes in any arena, be it fitness or business.
No matter the industry or category, coaches—great coaches—have a way of bringing the best out of you and taking you to the next level.
That said, even a “decent” coach will help you improve, because of the structure inherent in coaching.
You see, simply entering into a coaching/student relationship brings immediate benefits, and allows you—the person being coached—to progress simply by the nature of these advantages.
Briefly, some of the main advantages of coaching are:
- Knowledge/Expertise – This is (hopefully) the main reason people hire a coach or trainer. The person you’re hiring has a high level of expertise with the given subject, and can leverage that knowledge to your benefit. In the case of training, you’ll get in better shape, and hopefully learning something.
- Extrinsic Motivation –In almost all cases, people work harder and perform better when someone else is watching and helping them. Coaches in particular have this effect because they are actively pushing you to reach within yourself for more. The combination of motivation and intensity always leads to greater progress and better results.
- Accountability – By FAR, this is the greatest benefit of coaching. If you know someone is counting on you, you show up. Both physically, and metaphorically. Hiring a coach gives you multiple types of accountability.
Let’s look at fitness coaching—if you hire a trainer, you’re paying for it and therefore a LOT more likely to work hard, a lot LESS likely to skip workouts, and in general more prone to taking your program seriously.
As for non-financial accountability, the simple fact that someone is investing time in your success obligates you (emotionally) to strive to perform and achieve. We’re people pleasers, and when we place people in a position of authority (trainer) we are hard-wired to want to please them even more. Anyone who’s ever played a sport knows how much it hurts to think you’ve let your coach down.
This translates into training, business coaching, therapy, or nearly anything else. Knowing we have to report our actions, and those actions are being examined, and to some extent, evaluated makes us want to be on our best behavior at all times.
It’s no surprise that the mere act of hiring a coach often spurs people to new heights of success.
- Love and Friendship – This happens later in a coaching relationship. I can tell you as both a coach and a client, if you invest in someone emotionally, and they invest in you, and you’re both working towards mutual success, it’s impossible not to grow closer. Your goals are their goals, and so their successes become your successes. Your ups are their ups, their downs are your downs.
Despite the oft-lauded notion needing to maintain a baseline level of professionalism, the coaching/student relationship is, in my experience the coach/student relationship is ALWAYS enhanced when care about each other. This is why I have always said that, on some level, the “personal” aspect of personal training is more important than the “training part.”
Caring for each other enhances both motivation and accountability.
Those are just some of the benefits of coaching; there are far too many to list.
As I said, I don’t think everyone NEEDS a coach—but I think just about anyone can benefit from coaching.
Coaches themselves understand this fact the most intimately, which perhaps explains why trainers and coaches are “over-presented” in my programs; any given point, fully 50% of the clients enrolled in my online coaching program are other fitness professionals.
It also explains why I’ve continued to train with Matt, long after I hit my goal, and have no plans to stop.
If you want to read a personal account of someone who has experienced ALL of the benefits listed above, check out the piece below, by one of my coaching graduates, Tony.
Before I started training with Roman I had a vague (at best) sense of where I was going, training-wise. I grew up overweight and have never really been able to describe myself as “lean,” and have definitely never been considered “ripped.” That’s what I wanted. For some reason, however, I was habitually fooling myself into thinking that I was bringing enough to the table to get that done despite the lack of results from month-to-month.
Enter John Romaniello – trainer and coach, fitness expert and all-around badass. You knew that already (if you didn’t then shame on you!). What you don’t know is how great of a friend he is.
Training with John was an ever-evolving experience. At the beginning, I looked at it from a more traditional point-of- view. By that I mean that I viewed John as merely my coach and myself as just another client. Almost immediately I realized that he didn’t look at me as “just another client.” To John I was Tony and he was going to do all he could to help me get what I wanted. That alone helped me substantially.
Not only was Roman a new friend who just happened to be helping me get into shape I found out quickly just how much he really knows. I was astonished at how humbling his programming was for me. Here I thought I had really been doing work in the gym – ha! The joke was on me there. John showed me what it really meant to work, but the help didn’t stop in the gym. His nutritional advice was spot-on and produced great results when I followed it. He didn’t try to cram a bunch of gimmicky supplements down my throat—he only sound, proactive advice and strategies designed to help me reach my goals.
As I assume happens with a lot of his clientsI also brought some of life’s problems into the coaching experience with me. John didn’t shy from those issues – he had plenty of encouraging and helpful words for me when I needed them most. As we progressed with the coaching, he’d answer my questions, but also follow up and ask about my life. Partially it was because the information helped him refine my program, but part was because he actually cared. All of that just trickled back down into the awesomeness of the training experience.
To make a long story short, if you want to take a step towards bettering your health and looking good, give enroll in his online coaching and you won’t be disappointed.
In the past six months I have done more than I ever thought I could (both inside and outside of the gym), made strides toward my goal physique, coped with and confronted things and made a new friend to boot. I can now claim that I’m in the best shape of my life and only improving from here on. For that I can’t thank Roman enough, but this testimonial is my first step. Thanks for reading.
Tony is one of 8 clients who have graduated in the past three months. Tony, and others in his “graduating class” have achieved results beyond what they thought possible. They’re now living in bodies they thought they could never have. They’re now happy and secure in the knowledge that they invested in themselves.
I could not be prouder to have helped them, or to call them friends.
And now, I could not be prouder to announce that I want to help the next group–and I have just 8 spots available
If you’re trying to get to the next level; if you find yourself lacking motivation; if you find yourself spinning your wheels; if you just can’t figure out why you’re not progressing—consider letting someone else take the reigns.
Let me be your guide.
I can’t wait to help you get to the next level, as I’ve helped Tony, and as Matt has helped me.
If you allow me to leverage my knowledge; if you allow me to motivate you; if you allow yourself to be accountable to me; if you allow us to develop the kind of relationship that bonds us in a common cause—consider what you can accomplish.
Consider my track record. Consider my success. Consider my methods.
Consider investing in yourself.
Then…consider the alternative.
Isn’t it time you got what you’ve been working for?
Let’s do this. Together. =====> Apply for online coaching. <===== the next step is yours.
Oh, and…if you were curious about Tony’s progress…he went from 215 pounds at 23% body fat to 194 and 11%. This means he dropped about 23 pounds of fat while gaining 7 pounds of muscle–in just 16 weeks.
In terms of other improvements…Tony says, “I’d say my best improvements were in the way of conditioning – like being able to jump rope for 20 minutes straight at varying intensity, move through circuits at a brisk pace, etc. However, my bulgarian split squat (goblet style) went up drastically – to the tune of being able to do the 5/5/5 with a 70 pound dumbbell and no rest (from a typical load of 40 and needing to rest a few times). The balance and coordination aspect of this was greatly improved, too. Overall, in addition to looking better, I’m just more fitter and more capable. I just feel that I’m a better version of myself, in every way.”
Now how’s THAT for progress?
Let’s do this. Together. =====> Apply for online coaching. <===== the next step is yours.
What are YOUR thoughts on this? Have you ever hired a trainer or coach (in any field)? What were your results?
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